The swipe
Snap judgments trained a generation to shop for people. We rank the whole pool by compatibility and introduce a few. You decide with a full profile, a voice, and time.
Meet someone
who actually fits.
We match you on values, personality, and life goals, then introduce you to a few people at a time. No swiping. No feed. One connection at a time, the way it should be.
For serious singles 28 and over · matching runs twice a day
The refusal list
Everything we removed
on purpose.
Five things every other dating app has, that this one does not.
The endless feed
Infinite options make every option disposable. You hold one connection at a time. Attention is the whole point.
Profile theatre
Profiles lock after onboarding, and your main photo is your verification selfie. What you see is what was verified.
Pen-pal purgatory
Chats clear after seven quiet days. Talk with intention, share contacts when it's real, or let it close. No zombie threads.
Engagement tricks
No streaks, no boosts, no bait. This app is designed to be deleted, because you met someone.
The method
Three steps.
No games between them.
Answer like an adult
A deep questionnaire: values, family, faith, ambition, how you fight, how you love. Twenty minutes that save you months. Then your profile locks.
Receive your introductions
Matching runs twice a day. The engine ranks the whole pool across 70+ dimensions and hands you a few introductions. Choose one person, or wait for the next run.
Seven days to make it real
A match opens one conversation: their voice, their full profile, and a week built to get you from chatting to meeting.
Inside the app
What the app
actually does.
Compatibility
Matched on who you are, not how you pose.
Values, faith, family plans, ambition, humor, how you argue. 70+ dimensions, scored for real common ground. Your best matches surface. The rest never waste your evening.
One at a time
A few introductions. One choice.
Introductions arrive twice a day. Choose one person and the app quiets down around you both. When a connection ends, matching reopens.
The voice intro
Hear them before you meet them.
Every member records one spoken hello. One take, kept for good, revealed when you match. It says more than forty photos.
Seven days
Chats that go somewhere, or go away.
Each chat carries a 7-day clock that resets while you're talking. Share contacts when you both choose to, or let it close quietly. Built to get you across a table.
Global Match
Dating across cities, deliberately.
Moving to London? Rooted in Kochi but open to Bengaluru? Point the engine at a destination city and get one curated introduction a week from it, open on both sides.
Verified, then locked
Profiles you can take at face value.
Your verification selfie is your main photo, permanently. Profiles lock after onboarding. Contact info is revealed only when both people consent. No social links, no data resale.
The week after you match
Built to get you across
the table from someone.
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Day 0
It's a match. The chat just opens
You both said yes, so you talk. Their spoken intro unlocks: a two-minute hello in their own voice. No paywall standing between two people who chose each other. Nothing here costs anything.
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Days 1–4
One conversation, full attention
While you're connected, new introductions pause for both of you. No inbox of backups, no one juggling you against six other chats. The app gets quiet so the two of you can get loud.
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Day 5
We ask one question: did you meet?
A single private prompt: yes, or not yet. Never shared, never shown. It teaches the matchmaker what a good introduction looks like.
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Day 7
The chat clears, on purpose
Seven quiet days and the conversation closes. Share contact details when you both consent, or keep talking, since every message resets the clock. Momentum, or a clean goodbye.
2×
Matching runs a day
70+
Compatibility dimensions
1
Connection at a time
7
Days per conversation
Membership
Free, no strings.
Zero casino mechanics.
Dating apps make money keeping you single and swiping. We do not charge you at all: no membership, no per-match fee, no boosts, and no card on file.
The app
Free
every feature, no card on file
- Every introduction and every chat
- Voice intros and verification
- No card, no trial clock, no catch
- Nothing expires, nothing downgrades
Every introduction
Free
no per-match charge, not now, not ever
- Every chat opens for both sides
- No paywall between two people who chose each other
- No boosts, no priority, nothing to buy
- Your place in matching is never for sale
Global Match
Free
included, never a separate purchase
- Date into a destination city
- One curated introduction a week from it
- Arrives unlocked for both sides
- For moves, roots, and long bets
Questions
Straight answers.
No fine print.
What is 30andme?
30andme is a no-swipe dating app built for serious singles over 30. Its compatibility engine matches you on values, personality, lifestyle, and life goals across 70+ dimensions, then introduces you to a few people at a time. Every introduction is one you can act on.
How does matching work on 30andme?
There is no swiping. Matching runs twice a day: the engine ranks the whole pool by compatibility across 70+ dimensions and hands you a small curated set of introductions. You choose one person and hold one connection at a time, never a queue of half-conversations.
Is 30andme free?
Yes. 30andme is free to join and free to use. There is no paid tier, no subscription, and nothing locked behind a paywall.
Do I have to be over 30?
You must be 28 or older to join. The community is built around people in their thirties and beyond: same life stage, same seriousness.
How do you keep profiles trustworthy?
Your verification selfie becomes your permanent main photo, and profiles lock after onboarding. What you see is what was verified. Contact information is revealed only when both people consent.
Why does the chat clear after 7 days?
Because months of texting is where connections go to die. The 7-day window resets with every message, so an alive conversation never expires, only silence does. It nudges you both to meet, exchange contacts, or close it cleanly.
The journal
Notes on dating like an adult.
One Connection at a Time: The Rule Everything Else Serves
Every design choice in 30andme descends from a single constraint: you have one live connection, and everything else waits. Why we built around the rule the whole industry runs from.
Dating After a Long-Term Relationship Ends
You're single again after seven years and the entire game has changed: the apps, the norms, your own reflexes. A field guide for re-entry, from the first profile to the first real feeling.
Are Paid Dating Apps Worth It? A Framework, Not a Sales Pitch
Sometimes paying is throwing good money after bad, and sometimes it's the cheapest decision in your dating life. The difference is what the money buys, and there are only three honest answers.